11 “Faux Pas” That Are Actually Okay to Make With Your matthew whalen
I am a firm believer that there is no such thing as no self-awareness.
No doubt, this is one of the reasons why we find ourselves constantly in between the lines of what is supposed to be the “best” approach to self-awareness.
What happens when you start to be aware of your own habits, routines, impulses, and reactions is that they become part of you. You can’t stop yourself from thinking about them, but you can stop yourself from reacting to them. The idea of being a person who doesn’t react to them is called “the blind spot” in psychology. The idea of being a person who doesn’t react to anything is called “the reactive mind”.
The reactive mind is when there is a lack of self-awareness. In this case, it is a lack of self-awareness that leads to reacting. The reactive mind is a negative trait, and we all have it.
Every time you’re on the fence with your current girlfriend you will get a lot of thoughts, and they will start to think about you. But if you think about them, they will start to think about you more. The first time you’re at your girlfriend’s house, you are thinking about her. The next time you get home, you are thinking about her.
This is why so many people who aren’t self-aware are always the ones to blame when a relationship goes south. They are always going to start thinking about their relationships. It’s as if they are the ones who are always thinking about the other person. It becomes an unending cycle of blame and self-blame, and it never ends.
Self-awareness is not going to help you with this. Not to mention, it will make you question everything you said or did. How did you say or do those things that makes you look like an idiot? In the beginning of a relationship, it would be hard for a girl to admit to herself how she should be reacting to certain actions. And if you are constantly thinking about relationships, you will have a hard time seeing the other person for who he is on a day to day basis.
I think it is a tough balance. There is no easy way to “change” our behavior. We can say, “It’s not me, it’s you.” or we can say, “It is you, but it’s not me.” But it’s hard to say something in the first case and not have it hurt.
This is one of our goals in the game. Matt is learning a lot about himself, and how his behavior affects his relationships with different people. We are also encouraging him to share the information he learns with others.